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Archive for February 2014

A Healthy Body is a Beautiful Body

A Healthy Body is a Beautiful Body

We have so much control over our self-esteem, yet most of us invite negativity to move into our brains and drag us down. Isn’t it interesting that most of our self-esteem issues are rooted in our own personal attacks on our physical appearance? We get stuck on our weight, our skin, our hair, our height, the size of our breasts, the size of our feet — whatever. Most of us look in the mirror and see room for improvement for our body. LOTS of room for improvement.

That negativity is so destructive. And it is false. You can look at the best looking woman in the room and you can just about bet that she’s said some pretty ugly things to herself today. Sure, you’d take her body or her hair or her eyes or whatever, but she sees the tiny zit on her forehead and nothing else.

If you are healthy, you have a perfect body.

PERFECT.

If you doubt that, imagine how you would feel about your body if you suddenly were diagnosed with cancer? You’d want your old, flawed, healthy body back in an instant. You would suddenly realize how good you had it, even though you’d been beating yourself up for your imperfections despite your perfect health.

It is time to wrap yourself in a self-appreciation because negativity makes your body an unhealthy host. Negativity attract stress and illness. If your body works, it is perfect. It will let you live well and explore the world. It will let you enjoy so much.

Why not appreciate it?

Why not thank your body for getting you where you need to go? Because, a healthy body is truly a beautiful thing. Appreciate it while you have it.

Bestselling Oprah author Fawn Germer has personally interviewed more famous leaders than any other leadership speaker. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

You Can Travel Easy or You Can Travel Hard. Shed the Stress.

Travel Easy

Life works better when you respect your internal speed limit. You can try to cram as much as you can into your day, or you can dial it back a couple of notches and make a conscious decision to reduce your stress by not having to accomplish everything.

Think about what you are like when you are in a huge hurry, racing your car well above the speed limit so you can get things done. You feel the stress in your shoulders. You know you are risking a speeding ticket and perhaps endangering your life and the lives of others. You have got to get to the next thing because the world will end if you don’t.

Or will it? Think about how your stress level goes down when you just slow down to the speed limit. So what if you lose ten minutes? Your day will be better. You will perform better. Others will appreciate you because you are not emitting a current of tension.

Travel easy. Pay extra for the direct flight. Skip unnecessary meetings or visits. Make decisions that give you time to live, time to rest. Take the pressure off of yourself so you can better enjoy your life while performing better at work.

Fawn Germer is one of North America’s most sought after speakers on leadership and performance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

 

Control Your Worrying: Taking Charge Over Your Stress Points

There is a wonderful cliche that says 90 percent of the things you worry about will never happen. No one can actually measure that, but it’s probably true. We live in a culture of worry. No wonder it is so easy to become consumed by it.

How can you get it under control?

Schedule your worries. Just give yourself a good 30 to 40 minutes a day to dig in and worry hard about the things that need your attention. Then, shut it down until your next worry session.

If you are getting a massage, that is no time to be fretting about finances, conference calls or Valentine’s that didn’t come. It is a time to tune out. So you tell yourself, “I already did my worry session for today. I’ll have to worry about this tomorrow.” It works.

Also, try to focus on one thing at a time. Multiple worry lines can make you a crazy person. They also send you into a worry loop where your perception distorts your reality.

It is only natural to worry. But you don’t have to let your worries own you.

Bestselling Oprah author Fawn Germer has personally interviewed more famous leaders than any other leadership speaker. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

Stop tripping over what is behind you…

Here’s a powerful quote: “Only a fool trips on what is behind him.” I saw it on Facebook last night and had to write it down.

There certainly are a lot of fools tripping on yesterday, and there’ve been many times when I’ve foolishly joined them.

You certainly can empower your past to paralyze you or let it go. Yesterday holds all the things that didn’t go right, the people who didn’t do right, the disappointments and failures and close calls and hurts that we haven’t quite been able to pack up and leave behind. We revisit and revisit them, or we can let them go.

What if we were able to consciously make the decision to let go of the negatives of yesterday and move on with a clean slate? Wouldn’t we position ourselves for a much better “RIGHT NOW”? Wouldn’t that give us the momentum we need to move forward in happiness and hope? If you are lacking that momentum, you have to realize that you have the power to create it for yourself.

When my father was a little boy, he and his sister were sent from Germany to live with strangers in England as part of the Kindertransport. My grandfather was in a concentration camp. My grandmother had to find a way to get my grandpa out (which she did),  re-unite with my dad and his sister, then move their once-wealthy family to Staten Island, N.Y. where the four of them lived in a one room apartment.

I only know sketchy details of the story because my aunt shared them with me. Dad rarely discussed his past, instead saying, “Look what I have right now! Look what is coming tomorrow!” I used to wonder if he was living in denial, but I now know that he was living his life, not reliving his past. When my mother was paralyzed by a stroke at age 66, Dad always said, “She’s alive!” and when things got difficult, he always said, “Better days are coming.” When the Alzheimer’s came, he kept his same hopeful approach to life. No matter how bleak it seemed to others, those two had a joyous love that was so evident every day. It was a real love story.

It may look like my dad lived a sad life of trauma and hardship, but if you knew him, you would say the opposite. He was a man who experienced so much happiness and hope because he never tripped on what was behind him. He chose to focus on the light around him in the present and the future, rather than lamenting the darkness of his past.

I know people who never get over the marriage that crumbled, the job that they were unfairly fired from, the friends who weren’t really friends, the things that inevitably went wrong. Does reliving the past make you more successful or more anxious?

When you catch yourself tripping over your past, shut it down. Remember that quote. “Only a fool trips on what’s behind him.” Or her. Stop playing the fool.