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Making the Hard Decision

There are occasions where our greatest growth comes from making the hard decision to cut losses and move on. Let’s say you launch a business and quickly start losing money. Time passes and you lose more money. It continues like that until you realize the hemorrhage won’t stop until you either shut down or file bankruptcy. You prove nothing by sticking with an obvious loser. The boldest option is quitting before you are completely sucked under. But, get the information you need to know that your decision is made from the power of information and insight, not fear.

Or, in another case, let’s say you have a real bully of a boss who is holding you back and making you miserable. He has made it clear he isn’t going anywhere and you are stuck with him – probably for several years — if you stay. You don’t want to be pushed out, you know you didn’t deserve the ordeal and it certainly isn’t fair. You shouldn’t have to leave. But, staying just gives him the power over your psychological well being. . Does it require more confidence to stay in a bad situation, or to pack up and leave? Quitting requires more strength in this situation. But it shows you decide your destiny, not some jerk. You may feel pushed out, but leaving in this kind of circumstance really means you are “firing” your boss.

Weak people encounter test points, stop what they are doing, let themselves feel bad, then slow down or quit altogether. Strong people see those moments for what they are: tests of stamina, creativity and willpower. They may ultimately choose to leave a losing situation, not because they are weak but rather, because they are strong.

Fawn Germer is the best-selling author of four books and speaks to corporations and organizations about courages and creative leadership strategies.

Put on your shoes, take two steps and change your life.

A few years ago, I interviewed Kathrine Switzer, the first woman to officially run the Boston Marathon. Her story became legend because she registered with her initials and race officials did not know a woman was on the course until they saw her. One race official was so determined to get her out of the race that he lunged at her and tried to pull her out. Switzer’s burly then-boyfriend pushed the guy away and she kept running. The whole thing was photographed by the media and the photos came to symbolize the obstacles women face when going where they aren’t wanted.

I asked her what she tells people to do to break the inertia that keeps them from starting their fitness programs.

“Put on your shoes,” she said.

It’s so simple.

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You just take the first step.

Now, as someone who has learned over the years how much better life is when the day begins with a workout, I have another suggestion to help you stick to something once you start it. Let’s stay with the fitness analogy.

1. Put on your shoes.

2. Walk out to the street.

On the mornings when I just don’t feel like working out, I put on my shoes and walk out to the curb in front of my house. I can decide not to walk or go cycling, but I must get to the curb – prepared to act – before I can make that call. That way, I am not giving power to excuses. If I don’t work out, I have to own it. It is a decision. buy ventolin rogue dvdrip download

The beauty of this is, if I am standing out there all ready to go, I’m going to go. I might just say, “I’ll only go for twenty minutes,” but after twenty minutes, I am in motion and I don’t want to stop.

This is exactly what we have to do when we continue on difficult paths, particularly with career or academic challenges. Just get dressed, get started, get in position, figure out where you are headed and start working.

Make up your mind

Whether you are going on a diet, training for a marathon, heading back for your MBA or changing jobs, the most wrenching part of a challenge is making the decision to really do it. I don’t mean the “It’s Monday so I am going to go on a diet” decision, but rather, the “I am going on the diet” decision.

You can decide to do something, but if you or others are able to easily dissuade you from carrying through to your goal, you haven’t made the decision to do it. You have instead made the decision to try to do it, and that is something entirely different.

The decision to “try” is the decision that greatly minimizes your chances of success. You begin by giving yourself an out. You are saying, right up front, that you might not be successful. That doesn’t mean you will fail. I just means that your success will likely come by happenstance, not pure determination.

A decision to “try” is always better than doing nothing, but make that kind of decision consciously. Don’t let it serve as an invisible wedge between you and a goal that could be achieved if only you’d thought it through and made the proper commitment.

The way to achieve seemingly impossible challenges is to only focus on the possibility they present. You may face obstacle after obstacle, but those are just part of the challenge. Embrace possibility. Believe in it. Truly commit to making it happen, and possibility has a way of becoming reality. lisinopril half life drug

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Persevere — regardless.

One of my closest friends is a former welfare mother who drove a cab to put herself through law school while caring for her two small children as a single parent. She eventually became a well-known judge, then shifted careers to pursue her dream of writing. She just finished writing one of the best novels I’ve ever read.

Another of my best friends was offended when, as a secretary, a client came in and told her she had an “idiot’s job.” That indignity inspired her to go to medical school and eventually become one of the nation’s first forensic pathologists. She was such a trailblazer that she soon was elected coroner in a major metropolitan area, then decided she wanted to next hit the road and travel. She used her skills and passions as she unearthed the mass graves left behind in Bosnia. Not much of an idiot.

All of us have our dreams. Some people talk themselves into them, some talk themselves out of them. But, the dreams are there.

Since you only get one shot at living, I suggest you live large. Don’t hunker down in that safe zone of settling for the known when you can find true greatness by being a little bold and having a little fun. foals premarin

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There are plenty of excuses for inaction, but the most common one is fear. No one wants to fail, so most people won’t even try. We lack the confidence to charge into change and enjoy the ride for all of its mystery and potential. So, we keep on keeping on, as boring or unchallenging as the circumstances are.

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And, that’s okay. I guess.

It is okay if you are truly happy with your decisions and are living a life without regrets. But, if there is even a twinge of regret nagging you for your abandoned dreams, stop making excuses and start seeking results.

Fawn Germer is the best-selling author of four books and speaks to corporations and organizations about courages and creative leadership strategies.

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Get the Job Done

People don’t invest their support or money in people who will let them down, so if you lose confidence in yourself, others will lose confidence in you. Do you invest in someone who isn’t sure he or she can pull off the task? Do you give your trust to someone who thinks naked weapon free he or she can do it? Or, do you find the person who knows with absolute certainty that he or she will find a way to do the job – no matter what? You choose the one who is going to get the job done. Period. So, know you will get the job done, and know you have the fortitude to find a way to do it despite whatever obstacles come your way.

I learned this lesson during my lowest professional moment. My first book had been rejected by every major American publisher. My first agent wasn’t communicating. My dream of a life as a successful author was in tatters – and it seemed as if the gods were conspiring against me, giving me every sign that it was time to give up.

“It isn’t going to happen,” I said to my friend. “And I have to accept it.”

“If you lose faith in your product, no one else will have faith in it,” she told me.

And, I knew she was right.

But, how could I believe in myself when I hit a wall at every turn?

I took inventory.

I knew I had a good product. The book featured interviews with world-famous trailblazers who had learned how to succeed and lead – the hard way. It had information that could help other people. As a consumer, I would have loved that book because it had the mentoring wisdom I so desperately needed as a manger. And, their stories made for compelling reading. I had a good book. What I didn’t have was a publisher.

I had to find a way to get that book sold and on the shelves.

But, how?

The hardest challenge was revving myself up to do battle again. I had to find the strength to believe in myself when it seemed like no one else believed in me. When I hit a wall, I usually need to get more information to figure out what is going wrong. So, I did some research and found out that my initial vision for the book – where all the interview subjects got their own chapters – wasn’t marketable to big publishers because that format does not sell tons of books. What I had to do was reorganize, restructure and rewrite.

I needed an agent. Well, my first agent was a real dud, but I felt stuck with her because I’d turned down about ten others when I chose her. But, I started thinking about it. There are thousands of agents. Surely one of them was right for me. So, I started sending out query letters.

Within a week, I had another dozen agents who wanted the book. I chose the one who I thought would believe in me and my dream. Did she ever. She got me my choice of publishers.

Hard Won Wisdom wound up being a best-selling, Oprah-featured book.

But, it almost never was.

Fawn Germer is the best-selling author of four books and speaks to corporations and organizations about courages and creative leadership strategies. heart and souls dvd