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Stop Seeking 100% Approval

Stop Seeking 100% Approval

There is a great quote widely attributed to Abe Lincoln: “You can please all of the people some of the time, and some of the people all of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all the time.” Actually, the Lincoln quote switches the word “fool” for “please.” But, this is a blog on wisdom and empowerment. We don’t need to talk about fooling others. We do need to talk about how much energy we lose by endlessly trying to please others. We need to stop  seeking 100% approval!

You can get praise from 99 people in a room, and criticism from the 100th. Which words are you going to remember most? Are you going to over-analyze the praise or pick apart and struggle with the criticism?

This is a hard lesson. You are not going to make everybody happy. You may be the most spectacularly wonderful person alive and, still, some people are going to think (or vent) bad things about you. In fact, some of the people who should love you will actually detest you — even though you have done nothing to deserve their ire. Sometimes it is jealousy. Sometimes it is the need to be a critical voice on every little thing. Sometimes people are just nasty.

Haters will just hate others and endlessly spew their hatred. If you get some undeserved criticism, hold your head up and keep moving forward.

You aren’t going to score with everybody.

You just aren’t.

You can either wallow in it or carry on. Criticism is a good thing when it is well-intentioned and constructive. Listen to it, and use what is helpful. But realize that there is an awful lot of criticism out there that serves no purpose other than to hurt or hinder others. You don’t need it, and you are free to ignore it.

Fawn Germer is one of North America’s most sought after speakers on leadership and performance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write
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