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Let Go of Your Bitterness and Move On

Let Go of Your Bitterness and Move On

“Forgiveness is a gift that you give to yourself.” Author unknown, but what a great quote.

When you have been let down, betrayed or otherwise wronged by someone, it is so easy to lose days, months — even years — to your bitterness.

Who is that punishing? The other person? Or YOU?

That boss who really stuck it to you hasn’t lost that kind of energy worrying that you are mad. That “friend” who betrayed you isn’t fretting about what he or she did to slight you.

And yet, there you are, feeling victimized and angry because you never got a proper apology, any remorse or any sort of emotional compensation for your suffering. You try to move on, but it is so hard to let go because what happened was wrong.You expect a little justice and fairness out of life, and while you know you probably aren’t going to get it from the system of work, government and community, you do expect it from people with whom you interact.

If you are good to others, they’re suppose to be good to you. Right?

But some people are not good to you. Or their perspective is different and they actually think they are being good to you, even though you don’t see it that way. Sometimes, others victimize you by doing what, in their hearts, they think is right.

You have two choices. You can wallow in what happened and stay bitter, or you can let go of your bitterness and move on.

Seriously forgive.

Forgive like a saint.

Because what you are doing is freeing yourself to let go of that negative energy and move on. You are taking your life back.

Use the affirmation: “I forgive (insert name) unconditionally as a gift to myself. I have moved on.” The more you say it, the more you will believe it.

And as you come to embrace that belief, you will let go of your bitterness and move on.

What a gift.

Fawn Germer is an internationally acclaimed leadership speaker and bestselling author. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write
  1. Glad to see you writing again, Beloved, and with such grace and charm and good humor as always. Loved all the essays, especially “Forgive Already!” One does oneself such a disservice to hold on to anger or perceived betrayal or whatever it is. The other person is moving forward quite happily, so the only one who suffers if you don’t forgive is you! There’s an old quote by someone I can’t remember that says, and I’m paraphrasing because I’m old and my mind is like a colander (the holes are much bigger than a sieve!), “people would really be surprised to know how little other people are thinking about them” – takes knowing and being comfortable that you are NOT the center of the universe. Forgive! And get on with being the best YOU you can be. Love you, Sis. xoxoxo

  2. WOW, I need this kick…. I am so glad you started to blog again, This is the first time I have followed your blog and I love it. It is like you are in my backyard peeking in my window so that you know just where to “KICK ME”. THNKS, I have come to realize that most of the time we do not even realize the kick we need. Everyday, there is something for me to learn from. Thanks again.

  3. Thanks for that!

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