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There is a huge difference between choosing to honor the rules and completely selling out. There is conformity that is a bad thing. And understanding the difference is a lifelong learning process. You figure out what you can live with and what you can’t. We all have times when we have to mute — or just tone down — our true self. But muting doesn’t mean trampling.

The ultimate question is this: Is it worth it to conform? If you feel like it is compromising your authentic self, it is time to check in with your gut. If you aren’t being true to yourself, it may be time for a reset.

It’s a whole lot easier to live in your skin if you make conscious decisions about how you are going to conform. Balance is key. You can conform without selling out.

Aren’t there times when conformity is comforting? Aren’t there times when it is easier to be welcomed into the fold when you know what you need to do? Do you like being in the “in group,” the “out group,” or no group at all?

Conformity becomes a problem when, in order to blend in, you are required to do it — and you don’t want to. There comes a point when you have to ask whether being accepted is worth sacrificing pieces of your true self. If that sacrifice is too painful, it’s time to start thinking about an exit plan.

When you are exhausted by the pressure to look and act and be like people that you don’t want to be like, you need to decide what you are going to do. It’s time to find an environment where you are celebrated and not minimized.

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